New Attitude, New Game
Cue the playlist:
“New Attitude” by Patti LaBelle — “I got a new attitude!”
“Sharp Dressed Man” by ZZ Top — “Every girl crazy ‘bout a sharp dressed man…”
Yeah. That tracks.
Something’s different in me today.
I’ve got what I’m calling an All-Play-All-Day Pass.
It kicks off with a visit to a longtime placeholder in my heart: Ricky, my music teacher and a posthumous gift from my late Zen Buddhist monk husband. A sharp-dressed man if there ever was one, and one of the people helping me rewild my soul—one WTF moment at a time.
Ricky and I share a lot:
Curiosity
Microdosing
Hiking and foraging
Editing and online presence
Deep reverence for Terence McKenna
Clean eating for radiant living
And a shared love of what I call “Allegedly Thinking”—my shorthand for that sacred combo of skepticism, open-heartedness, and radical personal testing. (Is this true? Allegedly. Let’s find out.)
Next up on the day’s playlist:
A brand-new class called “Talkin’ Bout Your Generation.”
It’s about decoding generational slang, sharing perspectives, and having real talk about things like aging, death, and language itself—
and why sometimes I still don’t know if we’re speaking the same damn English.
Still, I love a good phrase-jack. I’m known to borrow:
“No shade…”
“That slaps.”
“That’s good soup.”
We’ll be swapping culture, probably wisdom, and definitely stories. It feels like a good watering hole for making a new friend or two.
And then?
🎾 Social Pickleball: Round Two. New Energy.
This isn’t your grandpa’s competitive court energy.
This is a new configuration of play—more community, more inclusion, and none of that “everybody wins a ribbon” energy either.
Think:
“Way to be there.”
“Nice effort.”
“Good game, not at someone’s expense.”
This vibe is curated by my Renaissance man pickleball teacher—top-tier athlete and the kind of man who paused his own competitiveness and won more games because of it. (Yeah, read that again.)
At first I thought it was just his well-developed feminine side. But lately I’ve come to call it what it really is:
Men Who Nurture.
Men who create safe space so everyone plays better.
Men who dance on the sidelines once in a while.
Men who lead without domination.
This man is all that and a bag of chips.
A dad of three. A great husband. A model of mature masculine kindness.
And yes—he’ll be my guest on the Women Who Dare podcast.
Because daring isn’t always loud.
Sometimes it’s quiet leadership through inclusion.
New attitude, new rituals, new way of playing the long game.
Today isn’t about proving.
It’s about presence.
It’s not a hustle.
It’s a holy groove.
What do they say?
I’m not here for a long time. I’m here for a good time.
And baby, that time is now.
