Intimacy ReImagined
Connection Beyond the Swipe
Rediscover closeness — on your terms
Catch my interview below with TikTok phenom Whitni Miller @ShecallsMeDaddi.
Advisory: Explicit Adult Content
🎧 Intimacy Reimagined (Part 1 of 4)
with queer intimacy coach & TikTok truth-teller Whitni Miller
Length: ~15 min of soft, raw brilliance
Tone: Tender irreverence meets somatic wisdom
Best paired with: Tea, journaling pen, or your favorite body balm
💌 What This Is
This is not your average intimacy talk.
This is a barefoot walk into the sacred jungle of connection—with someone who has stood at the edge of disconnection and danced her way home through recovery, yoga, sexuality, and deep embodied practice.
Whitni doesn’t just “talk about” intimacy—she weaves it, inhabits it, and reclaims it.
🎯 What to Listen For (Guideposts for the Journey):
Simmering: A delicious practice of slowing down desire, creating heat through sustained presence
Safety vs. Comfort: Why awkward ≠ unsafe—and why the best relationships allow discomfort
Receiving Pleasure Non-Transactionally: A game-changer for Sadies who’ve only known worth through doing
Emotional + Experiential Intimacy: (Look below video for Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick’s Intimacy Wheel + Definition Expansion!)
The Four P’s + F’s: People-pleasing, Performing, Perfecting, Proving… and Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn
Awkwardness as the First Step to Hot: Yes. That.
🪩 If You’re a Sadie, You Might Say:
“Wait… I get to be awkward and still worthy of deep, slow-burning connection?”
“I thought I was broken, but maybe I was just busy trying not to be too much.”
“I want this. This depth. This softness. This kind of language.”
📎 Want to Go Deeper?
✨ There are three more parts in this conversation.
✨ Feel free to listen in or press pause and come back when you're ready.
✨ You're the one in charge here, babe.
💫 Intimacy Reimagined — Part 2: Receiving Pleasure Without a Price Tag
This 14-minute gem is a masterclass in nervous system literacy and the art of slowing the hell down. If Part 1 cracked the door open on presence, this one invites you to take off your shoes and stay awhile.
🪷 What You’ll Hear:
Why receiving pleasure non-transactionally is its own daily devotional.
The four P’s & four F’s (people-pleasing, performing, perfecting, proving vs. fight, flight, freeze, fawn)... and why we lovingly choose none of the above.
How to brew tea like it’s foreplay. Yes, really.
Why you might dissociate during sex—and why you are not broken.
The radical act of letting your body want.
🥢 Your Good-Dom Notes (aka: What to Let This Stir in You):
Notice the ways you might rush through anticipation. Do you allow your mouth to water for what you want—without guilt?
Reflect: Can you practice pleasure in tiny, deliberate ways today? Like letting a breeze touch your skin… like it was made just for you.
Consider: What if climax isn’t the finish line? What if the finish line is… already being in your body, fully?
🧨 Optional Challenge (Only if it Feels Delicious):
Brew your next tea or coffee with full ceremony. Smell it. Hold it. Let your body guide you before sipping. No multitasking. Just sensation. Let your nervous system rewire what “wanting” feels like.
“Sex is about living in your body. About showing someone how you feel—not through performance, but through presence.” – Whitni Miller
If this hits the tone and pacing you want, I can create similar intros for Parts 3 and 4 when you're ready.
Also, just say the word if you want:
this intro formatted for your Vault page (or stylized in Canva),
shorter preview copy for social/email teaser,
or audio narration script if you're reading it in your own voice.
Let’s make this sacred and real—and not so serious we forget to laugh while practicing. ❤️
🎧 Intimacy Reimagined: Part 3 — “Do You Even Like This, Though?”
🍑 Vault Companion Note from Diane:
Take a long, slow breath — all the way into your pelvis — and ask yourself one question:
“Does this feel good?”
If it doesn’t, maybe just… don’t do it.
No more “shoulds.” No more performance. No more faking it for anyone — not even yourself.
In this vault gem, Whitni (my favorite recovering addict / yoga rebel / intimacy whisperer) drops a whole breathwork-to-body-melting-to-brain-healing sermon on:
🌀 How breath expands the body’s capacity for pleasure
🌿 How psilocybin and microdosing supported her post-meth recovery
🔥 How we can redefine climax, arousal, and connection on our own terms
🥵 Why simmering and anticipation might feel even better than the touch itself
🫀 What happens when we’re not chasing orgasm but just... feeling fully alive
Plus she’ll show you how a single hallway makeout and a folded laundry moment can become foreplay for real intimacy — when you know how to read each other’s breath, touch, and tempo.
🔥 Your Gentle Good-Dom Guidance: What to Focus On While Listening
Let this be a sensory listening practice, Sadie-style:
Let your shoulders drop.
Close your eyes and just let yourself feel along with the rhythm of Whitni’s words.
Notice what happens in your body when she says something bold.
Ask: Is this true for me? Does this turn something on in me — maybe not sexually, but spiritually?
You don’t have to agree with everything. You don’t even have to understand it all yet.
Just let it come in like breath… like permission… like warmth.
And maybe — just maybe — make out with your own reflection afterward. Or someone else in the hallway.
Your body, your rhythm, your yes.
🔥 INTIMACY REIMAGINED
A Slow-Burn Guide to Wanting, Warming, and Waking Back Up
You don’t have to figure it all out.
You don’t need to know how to get there.
You just need to notice:
👉 does this feel good?
👉 am I having a good time?
That’s where we begin.
This vault isn’t about hot sex (though you’re welcome to bring yours).
It’s about remembering how to turn toward your own pleasure — in small, steady, simmering steps.
🌀 Meet Whitni, a queer intimacy coach with a radical recovery story and the kind of presence that makes you sit up straighter and breathe deeper.
Across four bite-sized episodes, you’ll hear us talk about:
Redefining intimacy as attunement, anticipation, and consent-based delight
The art of simmering (not rushing to climax, but letting desire build across the day)
Why pleasure should be customized to your temperament, not to someone else’s fantasy
Energetic blueprints, and why some people prefer longing over touching
Dominance as devotion — creating safe places to surrender without losing agency
✨ Each episode is less than 20 minutes.
Start with one. Let it wash over you.
Then come back when you’re ready for the next deepening.
🔥Journey: Embracing My Aloneness
Duration: ~7 min
Music by: [Ricky Hilson, Rewild Your Soul]
💬 What happens when the greatest love you’ve known lets go of your hand? When the ember is all that remains?
This guided audio essay — recorded with original music by Ricky Hilson — is a somatic elegy for love lost and love transmuted. Diane brings us into a poetic heart cave where intimacy is remembered, not as something someone gave her, but something she became.
This is not a sad story. It’s a fierce one. It’s a shimmering invocation of what intimacy can look like when no one else is in the room but you... and the fire that still burns in your chest.
✨ Suggested Focus as You Listen:
Notice how Diane narrates moments of grief with texture and tenderness.
Feel into what intimacy means after loss, and where it might live in your own life.
Let the music carry you to your own inner hearth — is your ember still lit?